Pain is a Dish Best Served with Chopsticks

Pain. It is inescapable. If you are alive you will have pain. Mental pain, physical pain, broken heart. I have been thinking a lot about pain and trauma since my husband died. How have I experienced pain? Some times it is very physical. My heart/chest feels the ache. I feel heavy and slow. It can … Continue reading Pain is a Dish Best Served with Chopsticks →

The Salt Shaker and the Can Opener

Have you ever said "boy I wish I could use a can opener on his head and see what is inside?" I have often thought that about my son, because I find him fascinating and engaging when I can get him talking about the things that he knows and enjoys. I think that if we … Continue reading The Salt Shaker and the Can Opener →

Out of the Ashes

I feel like I have been through the fire. Like I have been covered with a thick layer of charred skin that has built up over time. Every time a new hurt, disappointment, or crisis occurred my "skin" would crack a little, and pain would bleed out. In a short time the anger and defensiveness … Continue reading Out of the Ashes →